There is no debate that society needs government systems. From systems intended to protect our safety, well-being, and rights, to education, healthcare, and providing safety nets to those less fortunate. Despite the divisiveness and our many flaws, we have the best form of government and much of that can be attributed to the intentions and missions of our many, many systems.

But many systems are broken and need improvement if not complete overhaul. Three fundamental problems with each of these systems are:

  • they can inherently pit good parents against one another to push one away,
  • they don’t treat or respect parents as equals,
  • they encourage conflict between parents instead of cooperation.

Family Court

Long recognized as an adversarial arena with limited if any benefit for children or families. Instead of protecting the common good or a child’s best interest, family court rules and processes enable, encourage, and often reward bad actors. Court rulings regularly diminish or sever the role of one of the parents in a direct contradiction to what is truly in the child’s best interest.

Child Support

The child support system was created for all the wrong reasons. It was created as a welfare recovery system because the federal government did not trust that low-income separated parents of color to be good parents. Dads couldn’t be trusted to provide and moms couldn’t be trusted to care for their children without the help of a man or government.

Child Protective Services (CPS)

CPS has one of the toughest jobs in all of government in trying to protect children from their own bad actor parents. Because false allegations of child abuse are the primary weapon a bad actor parent uses to gain an advantage of court, the volume to false allegations or of a parent trying to make a mountain of a mole hill make up the vast majority of all child abuse reports. CPS policy currently ignores false allegations and parental alienation.

Domestic Violence (DV)

DV policies, programs, and funding are based on the false bias and belief that men are primarily the perpetrators of DV and women are primarily victims. CDC data and hundreds of research and social science studies, reports and peer reviewed published articles not only contradict this false narrative, they show that women are “equally, if not more, aggressive than men.” DV is not a single gender issue. DV policies and programs must be inclusive and fair regardless of gender.