WHAT WE (want to) DO
Think Big & Be a Change Catalyst

Creating generational change in big bureaucratic systems requires:
- Raise awareness with the public & policymakers of how dysfunctional family systems are.
- Litigate to hold systems & people accountable and give policymakers a sense of urgency.
- Legislate to better protect the safety and well-being of children whose parents separate or divorce.
Prevention & Protection
Instead of systems strengthening the guardrails to keep families and children on the high road to safer and more prosperous futures, they grease the already slippery slope to parental conflict, family destruction, and diminishing child safety and well-being. It’s common practice for a narcissistic parent to try and weaponize CPS, law enforcement, and family court to harm the other parent to gain an advantage in contested custody.
Kentucky passed a rebuttable presumption of equal pareting law in 2018/2018. It means if you contest custody, courts will rule 50/50 parenting time unless there is a preponderance of evidence that either parent is unfit or unsafe. Kentucky results ==>


Broad Discretion, Subjective Opinions & BIAS
The fundamental reason why family court is responsible for destroying so many families, lives, and dreams: rulings and decisions can be based on any one person’s opinion or bias. They don’t require evidence or fact, just an opinion. Everyone, from judges and GALS to case managers, custody evaluators and others involved in a contested custody case has broad discretion to decide what they “think” is in the best interest for a child. And, they do so without fear of being held accountable.
Bias might be for or against you. Their bias might be money motivated or they might not like the way you look or act. Either way, bad actor system players are protected by absolute or qualified immunity. Holding people and systems accountable is the most effective way to fix these family destroying systems.
Independent NGO System Oversight & Family Advocacy
Given the long standing systemic problems of family court and CPS, there is desperate public need for a National Center for Abused & Exploited Families (NCAEF). Like the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children, who tries to protect children from societal and human threats, the NCAEF is needed to protect children and families from being exploited by threats from systems.
The NCAEF‘s family facing programs would include Family Risk Assessments, Family Advocates, and a Complaint Registry System. Family Risk Assessments help protect children from getting caught in the middle of their parent’s conflict. Family Advocates ensure all people, regardless of race, gender, or economics, are treated with dignity, respect, and due process. A Complaint Registry System is an informal way to collect data and identify problem practices or people without the CYA mentality of government systems.
NCAEF would independently aggregate data to engage with state/county policymakers and system leaders to promptly identify and efficiently solve problems. When active engagement doesn’t work, like the ACLU, there’s always litigation.

“An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.” Benjamin Franklin.
“We can invest pennies to stop throwing babies in the river or spend millions to pull them out.”
Carl Roberts – Founder